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If you go to the average, everyday retail site that just-so-happens to sell sex toys, you’ll find a whole lot of intentionally phallic, “realistic” dildos. Seeing this over and over, I began to think about how dildos were toys, not replacements, and what about people who don’t care about simulating dick? Where’s the color, the glitter? Where the holographic dildos at? You can find less phallic dildos in colors other than skin pretty easily with sex toy specific retailers – though most of those options are pink or purple (boring!) – but what about something more artistic? What about something more fun?

And that thought almost immediately led into the land of fantasy dildos. Somewhere in between “that’s pretty” and “but why?” I learned that certain popular toys of yore (like, say, the Sex and the City rabbit vibrator) aren’t really even that safe to use. Then why are products made from unsafe materials still being sold in places people new to sex toys are most likely to buy from? Good question. Regardless, the safer toy market is huge. I’m not sure where I stand on certain specifics that really make some of these toys interesting, but I’ve definitely been entertained with the breadth of options thanks in part to the malleability of silicone, and I’ve even found out about toys I never knew existed.

I can’t be the only person who didn’t know about some of this, so I decided to share my finds in one central location, with emphasis on dildos and insertable toys. While I’m at it, I’m going to link a bunch more things I’ve found along the way that are more generally sex toy and sex education related. If you need help navigating the site and understanding the terminology used here, check out the categories & tags explanation page.

Finally, a disclaimer: Whether or not you’re interested in any kind of sex toy, think of this site as educational. If your education includes believing that dildos lead to people-who-like-men hating actual dick, you’re going to want to stick to the education & information side of the site as that isn’t logical.

Last Updated January 2022


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